Since this thread started in Feb. of 2023, and you haven't managed to even pull the head to see what you have, I'm not sure its anyone's fault but you're own that its no closer to running.
Yes, buying a grader that hasn't been built in over 50 years, and expecting parts to be on the shelf waiting for you to rebuild it, is somewhat naïve. Actually cat does have some of the parts, you're complaining that you have to individually order gaskets, and upset at the price of a head gasket.
There's a supposedly running 12 by me for $8,000. There's another guy with a 14 and a 120 and you can buy the pair for $15,000. There's a surprising amount of nice running graders for $20-$30,000 that are from the 80's and 90's, and much more likely to have parts available.
Buying a ancient grader with a seized motor, and then being surprised at part issues, really isn't anyone else's fault. Why do you think they parked it in the weeds to begin with?
Instead, here we are a year later, and no closer to having the grader running, than last year.
Pull the head, oil the cylinders, pull the motor, find a parts machine, buy a different machine and make this one a parts machine. Repower it. Cut it in 1/2 and weld a JD4020 on to the back end. Do something. Doing nothing means you're never moving material.