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Devastated I couldn't save her

Welder Dave

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Joined
Oct 11, 2014
Messages
18,076
Location
Canada
My partner of 22 years passed away totally unexpected this morning. She fell yesterday morning and was OK. She had a softer fall this morning and was OK at first. We tried to get her up but it she didn't have enough energy so was just sitting up on the floor. Then she fell over and I put a pillow under her head. She was talking to me and all of a sudden she wasn't responsive. After about a minute of trying to get a response I called 911. They told me to do chest compressions which I did for about 8-10 minutes until the ambulance arrived. They tried for about 30 minutes but she was already gone. They said I did everything I could but I feel like I should have done more.

She had surgery to remove skin after losing weight on June 17. She had drains in she hoped to have removed this week. She was so excited to have a flat stomach again! I called her my secret weapon because she was so kind to everyone and helped anyone she could. She looked after me when I had cancer and came to see me everyday for months. I tried really hard to look after her the same way and I couldn't save her. I know she's looking over me. She was always my angel. She was only 65.
 

Tones

Senior Member
Joined
Mar 15, 2009
Messages
4,225
Location
Ubique
Occupation
Ex land clearing contractor, part-time retired
Sorry for your loss, loosing a loved one suddenly is a terrible thing. Don't go to far down the could of should of road, it can be soul destroying ,just stick to the facts as much as possible
My wife passed away in late April after a long illness ending with a planned death. The void she has left is emence and for me keeping busy helps my head no end.
Take care Dave.
 

Pixie

Senior Member
Joined
Nov 11, 2011
Messages
445
Location
NH
Occupation
remodeling
I'm sorry for your loss, Dave. The suddenness makes it hard.
I've been there. Be kind to yourself and stay busy.
 

Mr. Wrench

Senior Member
Joined
Oct 23, 2025
Messages
395
Location
Ohio
Occupation
Mechanic
Sorry for your loss Dave. Life is so short. Death has a way of helping us think about the things that really matter. I have not lost a companion yet, but have lost a baby son. Death is not the end. We can have a great hope to look forward to. May peace and comfort be yours in the mist of the storm.
 

Truck Shop

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Joined
Dec 7, 2015
Messages
25,339
Location
WWW.
Dave, knowing you--we know you did all you could, always tough and sad to lose the
one closest.
 
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